@Jazzy, I'm not too sure about that. Coming up on my 6th visit and I'm still looking for a favorita.  I know I'm ugly, out of shape and freaky...but damn, one of them should have risen above the money.  Oh well...the search continues...

We’ll get you one Papi. It’s honestly really surprising you haven’t found one. They’re never gonna rise up above the money — but you can definitely find one who rises up above ONLY the money.

There’ll be a nice 6 or 7 out there, probably in her late 20s/early 30s, with kids at home that wants a regular. Find one that speaks some English. Preferably one that approaches you. If you vibe well during sex, offer to take her to dinner afterwards at one of the nicer places. Go shopping with her, buy her a 500 peso dress at one of the tiendacitas. Send her home with some candy for her kids. Give her a propina, tell her you had a great time and can’t wait to see her again. Tell her she’s better and different than all the other Sosua girls. Make her feel like not a puta. A lot of chicas aren’t ratchet-ass barrio barbies and are working Sosua more out of genuine need than laziness and greed. Look for the former kind. 

Look for signs that she’s giving you genuine compliments, something believable. Your eyes, your sense of style, your sense of humor.

They’re out there. Probably not going to be the dimes or girls in their early 20s. Going to be someone more down to earth that doesn’t want to be on the hoe stroll.

Once you find a main, it totally changes the Sosua experience. Once you find her, treat her like a queen, and she’ll treat you like a king. It’ll always be a transactional relationship deep-down, but that doesn’t need to be a bad thing - you take care of her and she’ll take care of you.

I’ll say this Papi — you’re not always gonna be on the same page with your favorita. Despite you paying them and treating them generously, you don’t own them. Dominican women are very strong and very independent. I’ve gotten into two fairly serious misunderstandings with my main on my trips. And I’m going to call them misunderstandings rather than arguments, and I’ll explain why below.

There are just WAYYY too many cultural differences between a poor, uneducated, Dominican single mom working in Sosua and an educated, professional American man in his 30s, 40s, 50s to ever be on the same page all the time.

Money is important to her because she doesn’t have any. Its a survival thing, she can’t worry about any higher level enjoyment, like sex or companionship, until the money is taken care of. She has rent due and kids to feed, and probably extended family as well. She NEEDS the money. And you as the wealthy, older American man have plenty of it. She has an ENTIRELY different relationship with money than you do. Her needs are much more immediate and short-term.

And her kids are the most important thing in her life because they are literally all she has. She doesn’t have a powerful career. She doesn’t have any assets. No matter how much she likes you, her kids and the needs of her kids (i.e. money) are 10000x more important than you’ll EVER be. Don’t take it personally, it’s just how it is there. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t like you.

And It’s actually a much more traditional provider role for the man, that so many on this forum seem to long for. Take care of her and her needs (money), she’ll take care of you and your needs (sex and attention).

Just because she’s very serious about money doesn’t mean she’s doesn’t like you at all. But it’ll be up to you do figure out whether she needs the money to feed her kids and pay her rent, or whether she needs it to get her nails and hair done. There are nice girls who just happened to draw the short straw in life in Sosua, and there are also ratchet-ass barrio barbie chapis as well. Hopefully you can tell the difference.

And yes, they’ll always “screw it up.” Women always do. To us, they’re irrational and emotional. Add in their uneducated nature and all of the Dominican cultural differences and ya...sometimes things go a little off the rails.

Enjoy these relationships for what they are. Remember despite you paying her, she’s still a an autonomous person (a very proud, independent, fiery Dominican female one), that she views money differently that you do, and try not to take things with them so seriously. They are mutual beneficial relationships of convenience that won’t last forever. Think of them as somewhere in between a FWB and a sugar baby relationship. Have fun with it and enjoy it while it lasts.

There are just WAYYY too many cultural differences between a poor, uneducated, Dominican single mom working in Sosua and an educated, professional American man in his 30s, 40s, 50s to ever be on the same page all the time.

Money is important to her because she doesn’t have any. Its a survival thing, she can’t worry about any higher level enjoyment, like sex or companionship, until the money is taken care of. She has rent due and kids to feed, and probably extended family as well. She NEEDS the money. And you as the wealthy, older American man have plenty of it. She has an ENTIRELY different relationship with money than you do. Her needs are much more immediate and short-term.

Unfortunately,  that short term mind set will NEVER EVER change, no matter how old they get.  Ive dated two women who lived in NJ but were from Brazil and they had that same "Today is all that matters" mind set.  No matter how hard I tried to explain that " you can have 100 dollars today or 1000 dollars at the end if the year if you play your cards right"  They always went for the today money because to them, tomorrow will take care of itself.    Its extremely frustrating but its a common poor person manner of thinking.