WHAT HAVE YOU LEARNED? OR THINGS CHICAS DID TO MAKE YOU LAUGH?

[stinqu]

I usually have the chica cook brunch

[murano2010]

Don't swet it Dominican time is allot like Jamacan time "SOON COME MAN" . If you what her to be on time, tell her 7, she'll be there before 8, and make her wait, easy peasey.

If that works for you, cool.     I may not choose to go that route.    For me, when a time/date is set, either they come on time,  or they can stay where they are.   I have no problem, and dont mind cancelling or aborting if a chick is late.   My way usually produces some attitude adjustment.   

It's helped enough chicas Ive encountered to realize that Im not tolerating the same dumb shit they are accustomed to doing with other men.     And quite frankly,  I think some of these chicks are innately attracted to a guy who doesnt give a f--k about aborting/cancelling.   I think it's good for them to feel consequences when they do sloppy business.     For me, it's good as well.  I find that I dont feel frustration or anger,  because I take matters in my own hands.    As far Im concerned,  the chick is the one that f--ked up.   I accept no blame for their behavior , nor make excuses for protecting my own interests 

[stinqu]

MURANO, years ago I did the same, would not put up with their bull shit and cut them off. Then I started to play their game, WHEN CAN I SEE YOU PAPI? , TOMORROW, WHAT TIME PAPI? I DON'T KNOW. It f--ks them up JAJAJAJ. tHEN SET THE TIME

[murano2010]

MURANO, years ago I did the same, would not put up with their bull shit and cut them off. Then I started to play their game, WHEN CAN I SEE YOU PAPI? , TOMORROW, WHAT TIME PAPI? I DON'T KNOW. It f--ks them up JAJAJAJ. tHEN SET THE TIME

Well thats a different scenario.  There is no date and time set.   Every few days like clockwork, my regulars are usually asking when can they come over.   I decide if and when I want to see them. 

Usually I dont always agree to see them when they ask.   Especially if it's only been a week or less since their last visit.   I like to stretch the intervals of their visits out to 10 days to 2 weeks or more, for each.   However, once a time and date is set,  if they arent where they are supposed to be, they already know what might happen on my end. 

[stinqu]

LOLOL. Morano, it sounds like I need a few more chicas in my rotationto to make that work, HAHAH I will work on that my next trip. GOD BLESS AND BE SAFE.

[murano2010]

Spent 3 weeks in the states.   The DR has spoiled me big time.   Havent been there since November 2019.  My trip back to the states, helped me realize how much I enjoy living abroad.   Dining out in the states can be expensive.  One place we went to, breakfast for 4 people at some fancy pancake house in NJ was $148.   For 4 people?

Food was expensive enough.  But specialty drinks can send a bill into orbit.   One of us ordered and drank 3 mimosas.     

Average bill for dinner was easily $200 to $240 for 3 to 4 people depending on the place we chose.   I went to a small Jerk Hut in Tampa and paid $31 for a to go order of Oxtail (large ), one jerk pattie, coco bread and a drink.   Damn $31???   

Went to a CheeseCake Factory in a mall in a Chicago suburb.   Me and my buddy had Turkey burgers and fries.  Him a coke, me a glass of Sangria.   Ordered some dessert to go.   Bill a whopping $115.    My glass of sangria alone which was not in a large glass but was full of ice, that was almost $14 alone.   Those desserts were close to $10 bucks each.   

Had fun shopping for clothes and footwear.   When it comes to gadgets Im not as concerned about the expense especially if I will get good use out of it.   Bought a tablet with keyboard.  Very much upgraded from my old Samsung Pro Tab. 

Not having flown in a while, I struggled with finding the most direct ONE WAY flights to POP, at decent rates.   Leaving POP wasnt that hard to go to NJ.  I had a credit from last year because of the pandemic.   But coming back to POP ONE WAY from Tampa, the prices and layover times were ridiculous for each airline I researched.   

Seems as though, once the booking systems see an attempt to fly only ONE WAY,  your options and flight schedules, SUCK.     It's either the price you get is too gottdamn high for a one way trip,  or the extra stops or layover time frame is inconvenient.    Didnt help any that the flight is booked in less than 2 weeks in advance. 

I settled on an expensive one way flight back to POP with a stop and a 10 hr layover.   I wanted to get back home, so I gave in.   I was done with this trip.    I bumped myself up to business class for comfort and for better luggage allowance ( just in case ),  and ended up on a plane full of empty seats.   

[Bat Man]

Spent 3 weeks in the states.   The DR has spoiled me big time.   Havent been there since November 2019.  My trip back to the states, helped me realize how much I enjoy living abroad.   Dining out in the states can be expensive.  One place we went to, breakfast for 4 people at some fancy pancake house in NJ was $148.   For 4 people?

Food was expensive enough.  But specialty drinks can send a bill into orbit.   One of us ordered and drank 3 mimosas.     

Average bill for dinner was easily $200 to $240 for 3 to 4 people depending on the place we chose.   I went to a small Jerk Hut in Tampa and paid $31 for a to go order of Oxtail (large ), one jerk pattie, coco bread and a drink.   Damn $31???   

Went to a CheeseCake Factory in a mall in a Chicago suburb.   Me and my buddy had Turkey burgers and fries.  Him a coke, me a glass of Sangria.   Ordered some dessert to go.   Bill a whopping $115.    My glass of sangria alone which was not in a large glass but was full of ice, that was almost $14 alone.   Those desserts were close to $10 bucks each.   

Had fun shopping for clothes and footwear.   When it comes to gadgets Im not as concerned about the expense especially if I will get good use out of it.   Bought a tablet with keyboard.  Very much upgraded from my old Samsung Pro Tab. 

Not having flown in a while, I struggled with finding the most direct ONE WAY flights to POP, at decent rates.   Leaving POP wasnt that hard to go to NJ.  I had a credit from last year because of the pandemic.   But coming back to POP ONE WAY from Tampa, the prices and layover times were ridiculous for each airline I researched.   

Seems as though, once the booking systems see an attempt to fly only ONE WAY,  your options and flight schedules, SUCK.     It's either the price you get is too gottdamn high for a one way trip,  or the extra stops or layover time frame is inconvenient.    Didnt help any that the flight is booked in less than 2 weeks in advance. 

I settled on an expensive one way flight back to POP with a stop and a 10 hr layover.   I wanted to get back home, so I gave in.   I was done with this trip.    I bumped myself up to business class for comfort and for better luggage allowance ( just in case ),  and ended up on a plane full of empty seats.   

Like you I've a last minute one way flyer. pre pandemic it wasn't hard to find deals if you knew where to look. Now unless you're going from hub to hub it costa almost as much to go from regional to regional as a round trip costs 18 months ago. The Airlines are getting over by jacking up prices to make up for the pandemic drop. A lot of small airlines are going out of business and even some of the big boys are getting brought out. Committed travelers are gonna have to get savvy to save money in the future. It's goona damn near require for mongers to use the Chase suite or Amex suite just to get prices to where they were pre pandemic.

[stinqu]

One thing that makes me laugh is sending a chica to the Big Plyero to bye food for supper and no change from 1000 p.LOL I even get the receipt, it's like the deoderant or hand cream is the cost of going to the store and cooking LOLOLOL. THIS IS THEIR  WAY, JAJAJAJ

[murano2010]

A recent vacationing dude/acquaintance I met wanted to take his chica to La Sirena for groceries.   Before we went in the store, I warned him that he had better monitor her stroll in the store.  Because he may find her picking up any and everything she thinks she needs and put it in her cart.   I was right. 

I advised him to stay close too.   Because once it goes in the cart, it aint coming out until it gets to the register.   Eventually he paid more attention to her shopping, and got to the point where he had to stop her, and advise her that she could do 2 more isles and thats it.   By then, she already had the cart filled up pretty good.   The chica had help filling the cart too,  her 10 to 12 yr old dtr.   

I watched how the daughter would "find" some non essential snack/item she liked, and brought it to her mother to put it in the cart.    In fact, I noticed the lady kinda using her dtr to fetch stuff to put in the cart.    Hard to say no to a little girl.   

I learned my lesson a long time ago.  Never again to take a chica to a supermarket on a free for all shopping spree, supposedly to buy much needed food.   The chica my friend took shopping had at least 1/3 of the basket filled with non food items.   And thats what I would avoid.  Of course I want to help with food for the house,  but I dont need to pay for shit that is not essential for sustenance.   

It's like it is almost automatic.  Once a guy makes an offer,  a lot of these chicas take an offer that comes their way , and attempt to take advantage or control.    You ask a chica would she like a coke or a Presidente?   In some cases a chica will say no I want something else.   Some hard liquor, a different cerveza.   Or they might be particular in wanting fresh or natural juice, instead of HFC juice.   Before an offer,  a lot of them muggs would not even entertain spending their own money to buy what they would like.  They would just do without. 

Them muggs can get very particular when a dude makes a generous or thoughtful offer and tells a chick what HE wants to buy.   It's almost like a lot of these chicks all have the same mindset.  "Oh, you want to buy me a drink huh?"  "Ok, well since you want to buy me something I havent earned or will appreciate, I dont want what you want me to have.  I dont want no damn coke or Presidente, I want what I want.   

Same goes with food.  Dude offers a chick a specific food item/meal,  a typical chick will tell a dude what SHE wants instead.  And then give him that look like, "you better give me what I want, rather than what you want me to have, especially if you think you are impressing me by buying me shit". 

Many dudes are seeing this attitude more,  and some are dealing with that type of shit, the moment they express liking a chick, and using icebreakers ( spending unnecessary money ) to impress a chick who uses a guys own habits and/or his weaknesses to score shit.  In the meantime they are saving their own money, keeping it where it belongs.     

IMO, a lot of guys have stopped making offers to chicks, as well as turning down requests of chicks asking for food and drink when they get stopped by a guy showing interest.   Enough guys have caught on to how chicks try to fleece dudes of cash,  just because they hope he'll be stupid enough to give it to them.   

The guy may only be showing interest, collecting a chicks number, and a chick will right then and there try to hit the guy up to spend money.   "Buy me a cerveza/drink mi amor"  Or  They start telling a dude how hungry/thirsty they are, expecting him to take care of that.   Sad thing is,  those tactics work quite often.   Im still seeing guys paying hustlers and chicks to so called leave them alone.    "Here, here's 100 or 200 pesos, thats all I have"     

Guess what happens in enough instances?   Once you do that they will keep coming back to get more.   And sometimes they get it.   Guy breaks down because he may be concerned about what they may think of him if he doesnt give/pay.   How can a rich guy be so selfish not to allow himself to be henpecked for his cash?   Give away your money so you can be in good graces and in good standing with hustlers all up in your grill.      That includes expat hustlers.   Some cats cant shake them either. 

[stinqu]

LESSON NUMERO UNO. All chicas will take advantage of your money, you just have to make them know how short the leash is. You may accept 5-600p of extra stuff in the cart but not 1-2000p. It all depends on how lond shes staying.

[stinqu]

I know a Canandian guy seeing a woman that lives in Haiti for 6-7 yrs now. She lives at his condo for the winter (6 months), pays her a flat rate of US1000/ month and he does the shopping

[j.smooth9]

I don’t mind buying a chick a beer if I’m vibing with her at the beach or rumbas or i plan on taking her home but i can’t f--k with buying every chick that shittt i had to say no three times from repeats last time walking down pc. It’s insane you say hi they ask for 100 pesos

[PapiViejo-Dark Lord]

I don’t mind buying a chick a beer if I’m vibing with her at the beach or rumbas or i plan on taking her home but i can’t f--k with buying every chick that shittt i had to say no three times from repeats last time walking down pc. It’s insane you say hi they ask for 100 pesos

Haha yup. I like to ask them to suck me off in my car for the "small amount" that they ask for.

[murano2010]

I don’t mind buying a chick a beer if I’m vibing with her at the beach or rumbas or i plan on taking her home but i can’t f--k with buying every chick that shittt i had to say no three times from repeats last time walking down pc. It’s insane you say hi they ask for 100 pesos

True that!  I believe it's wise to be flexible when it comes to who and when to spend money with chicks.   

[murano2010]

If you cant, dont or wont learn from friends, family or your peers, dont worry the locals will teach you, and you will learn the hard way. - Murano

Another example of being hard headed.  His boys tried to warn him.  Dont fall in love with these hoes, thinking they are really into you.  He's had several DR women over the last three years,  all convince him that they were his long-distance girlfriends.  Believing such, he routinely sent them WU, and bought gifts whenever he came back to Sosua for vacation.

Some of his chicks I know from seeing them over the years,  and at least one of them used to be one of my regulars.   With each one of those chicks, his expectations of finally hitting the jack pot was crushed when he found out that each of them were lying to him, and just using him.   He rationalized away the possibility that there might be a pattern with enough of these women when it comes to dealing with foreigners.  He just hadnt found the right chica yet?  So he continued leading with his wallet. 

Fast forward to 2 weeks ago.  He informs his current LD love interest that he was on his way back to the DR soon.  She in turn,  knows the jig is up.  Because if he sees her,  he will now know that she has been pregnant for a few months.   See?  In most instances, chicks can get away with bamboozling a cat for a long extended period of time while he's not here in the DR.   You can bet, that the average chica can and will fleece thousands of dollars from as many enamored foreigners as is possible. 

With stories ranging from the need for food, rent, medical bills, utility bills, tuition bills, for their birthday or a family members BD, to have a great holiday, or just about anything they can use as an excuse for money to be sent.   Getting that news devastated the brother.  Why so?   Because he was also thinking of bringing a ring, to give to her.   

That was before he found out, that she was pregnant by somebody else.   Now it's time for ego damage control.   In Sosua a guy should be able to put things like that behind him.  But it's not easy.   Because the whole time,  a guy is dealing with a lot trying to sort out the situation he finds himself in.   1st off, the feelings of being betrayed, by someone you thought loved you, the way you loved them.   A guy begins to realize, that all of that "Te Amo"  "Me extrano mucho" were all just a put on to keep the guy sedated to what was really going on. 

In fact, I'll go on record and say the charms of chicas in the DR can have a similar effect and damage potential as Scopolamine.  Commonly used by women in Colombia to drug a lot of tourist men.    And then they rob them.   The results in the DR and in Colombia both put men in a stupor, and sedated state. 

Both situations make it easy for men to part with their resources.    In one instance the victim is asleep, and wont know what happened and what he lost until after he physically wakes up.    The other is wide awake, and fast asleep in a dreamscape.   And he too wont realize what he's lost until he accepts he's been played.      Much of it self inflicted. 

The man here is moving like he needs a standing 8 count.  Because he easily falls for the next punch.    The next lesson?   Avoid sending money to chicas, especially if the amount sent is way more than what is needed for travel expenses to come to where you are.    Dude is engaged in a back and forth texting game from a chica he met on a dating website.    He may get to see pics, video of the chick, maybe even audio messages.   But he's never met her. 

At some point they work out a plan for her to come all the way to Sosua so she can spend time with him.   Dude sends her almost $100.   She convinced him that she needed money in order to look good for him.    The day she's supposed to come she advises him early that she will advise him of when she's on the bus.   Unfortunately, that text never came.   And she was a no show.   He thought that maybe she might text him and give him an excuse.   But he got nothing.   

So basically this dude has had one disappointing reality check after another and still may not have learned anything.    When he thought the chick was coming,  he was in high spirits.   Kinda chipper among the group about what he had coming to see him.   But by the time reality set in that he got bamboozled out of his money, and no chick was coming,  his attitude shifted from elation ,to disappointment to embarrassment.   And rather than take the full weight of it, and admit and accept that he got got,  he still tried to act like it was no big deal.   

But like I have said.  "If you cant, dont or wont learn from friends, family or your peers, dont worry the locals will teach you, and you will learn the hard way."

This has been a humble PSA.  Learn not to lead with your wallet.  Unearned rewarding or doing things just to make yourself feel good can be counter productive.    It's better to keep your money where it belongs, than to share it with the unappreciative, the untrustworthy, and the opportunistic (bunch ).